Before Kids: 5 Important Conversations to Have Before Starting a New Family

Dec 26, 2013 No Comments by

Communication is the key to everything and definitely so if you’re contemplating having kids…


Whether you have been married for a few months or a few years, there are some conversations that you should have with your spouse before you have children. These conversations can set the groundwork for raising a child, as well as determine possible solutions if you can’t get pregnant.




Are you at the right stage in life where you can afford all of the 5 Important Conversations To Have Before Starting A Family photo credit Anita Ginsburgnecessities of having a baby? Having a baby might be more expensive than realized. Doctor visits and hospital bills are only some of the expenses you will have before the baby comes. You will need to be able to pay for diapers, baby wipes and clothing are other necessities just to start. The baby needs somewhere to sleep and play. You will spend more money on your kids the older they get, so be prepared financially. Make sure you have the funds to take care of the baby before delving into the possibility of a pregnancy. Take the time to have the ‘money’ conversations – you won’t regret it later on!




This is something that might not be a big factor if you plan on keeping the baby in your room for the first few months. Look around your home to see if there is enough room for a new baby. If you live in a home with two bedrooms, then you should be fine. However, if you only have a one-bedroom home, then you might want to think about finding somewhere bigger so that you are not moving with a newborn. Consider what life will be like if you are currently living in a apartment complex, and consider the pros and cons of moving to a new place.




There is the possibility that you won’t be able to get pregnant, and this could be because of several different reasons. Make a plan that includes adoption or a surrogate mother if you have reached the end of trying to get pregnant on your own. A center for surrogate parenting can give you information about how the process works and the responsibilities that you would have as parents. Have these conversations and know your options for still having children, and be prepared financially.


The Pregnancy


Will you work while you are pregnant, or will your spouse work? You need to sit down and figure out the best way that you will deal with the pregnancy. Your hormones will be changing, and there will be changes with your body. Discuss all of these issues, and decide if you are ready to accept the changes that will come with the pregnancy. It’s too late to have these conversations once you’re pregnant!


How Many Children


This is an issue that should be discussed soon after you get married. One of you might want a dozen children while the other may only want one or two. Talk about this issue so that you can take birth control if you don’t want many children, or aren’t ready for kids right away. This will help ensure that you get pregnant when you are both ready.


A new baby can bring joy into the lives of newlyweds, but there are some things that you need to plan before starting a family. Look at your finances to see if you can afford the things that a baby requires, and decide if you will go back to work after the baby is born. With a little thought and planning, you can have a pregnancy that is delightful and enjoyable.

Communication is KING.

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